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“The helpless humiliations of infancy are not banished from my mind. I was resentfully conscious of not being able to walk or express myself freely. Prayerful surges arose within me as I realized my bodily impotence. My strong emotional life took silent form as words in many languages. Among the inward confusion of tongues, my ear gradually accustomed itself to the circumambient Bengali syllables of my people. The beguiling scope of an infant’s mind! Adultly considered limited to toys and toes.”

Paramhansa Yogananda - Autobiography of a Yogi

What if you knew your children would remember every single day of their life…?

Right now at this moment what are your children doing…?

Are they engaging in activities that benefit them as a Human Being…? Or just passing time…

Take a moment, if your children are nearby, to go see what they are doing right now. Just sit with them for a moment pondering the relationship. If you have an infant, communicate with them, not with “baby noises”, not even vocally. Being to Being, look into their eyes; let them know you understand they understand.

How do they spend their days? Who do they spend their days with? Do you know?

I’m not suggesting that you should be smothering… just the opposite.

Do they have the proper space to grow? Are they spiritually and mentally stuck in a box?

…like a Jack In the Box… being cranked round and round until they explode. Or worse, stay stuck in the box…

(via Raise Conscious Children)

When you and your child interact, what often happens is that your child communicates or conveys a message to you, and in response feels partially heard, or does not feel heard at all. For instance, your child’s message may be to express an idea, a thought, or a feeling-emotion, to you, and your response may be to problem-solve and to give a solution or to provide parental advice and wisdom to your child.

One consequence of this “dance” is that your child may have a sense of not being heard and understood. Your child may experience this as an empty feeling. For your child this may also be accompanied by a vague unsatisfied sense. This empty and unsatisfied feeling may be outside of your child’s conscious awareness and is often very subtle. In families where these poor communicating patterns occur repeatedly, children may get used to not feeling heard.

A deep human need is not being fulfilled. A consequence of this is that your child may end up feeling frustrated. If this feeling unheard happens a lot, your child may also feel invisible, unloved, unimportant, alone, and insecure. Your child may sense that it is not safe for him to express his feelings…

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